Posted on October 2nd, 2008 at 9:25pm
Today I’ve been thinking a lot about “missing” people from my life. My parents dropped off a load of photocopied documents of adoption stuff yesterday. I was flicking through it looking for clues.
In 2003 I tried searching for my birth mother through a UK organization. Their search ended in Hong Kong where they find some info. but was not aloud to view the information. So I gave up. Today was the first time I have tried again… it’s taken me a long time to take that step again. The only thing I could find online about anything to do with my adoption was the orginistaion that dealt with my adoption…. the internet is amazing =)…
… they had a website… I opened my email… wrote a short email… clicked send… now I’m waiting…
Posted on September 30th, 2008 at 12:38pm
I have a trip coming up soon to Ireland in which I’ll be talking with families that have adopted from Vietnam. I’m actually very nervous since it’s not very often I meet people that have adopted from Vietnam.
I have done some talks over the past year with a group I’m involved with. We are a group of adopted girls from ages 13-30, mainly of Chinese decent, though based in the USA. So many of the talks I’ve done this year have been mainly focused around Chinese adoptees… this is the first Vietnamese focused talk I will do and it’s been on my mind.
It definitely has not been on my mind in a bad way, but more that I’ve been thinking about the different questions that might be asked… but especially that every time I do a talk I actually learn much more than the audience might think. I defiantly dont know all the answers and I’m still pretty young myself (26) and my opinions about adoption seem to change on a daily basis. The main things I’ve been thinking about today have been my constant pulling between the fact I was born and grow up in Hong Kong with a Chinese culture and the fact that I am indeed Vietnamese.
I’ve only been back to Vietnam once in 1997 (when I was 15). It was on a school trip where I helped at an orphanage Called The Christina Noble Children’s Foundation. At the time I stupidly didn’t openly tell the teachers or a lot my peers that I was adopted from Vietnam (though they may have known). I’ve dug up some photos from that trip =).
I think the trip was very much needed. The hardest thing for me was to relate to the poverty in Vietnam compared to my very Westernized up bringing. And also a lot of the touresty type things to do at the time was very much related to the Vietnam War, which is a shame cos vietnam is not just about the wars it has had, and I wasn’t able to really get to the heart of the culture on that trip. However, that was over 10 years ago… from what I hear there is a growing number of tourism and I really hope to go back =D.
Posted on September 22nd, 2008 at 10:24am
I have had a website now for over 6 years now… I also once had a blog that I would only use amongst friends that was separate. It wasn’t until recently my mentor suggested to me that I make an official blog on my own website.
At first I was very unsure about an official blog. This is mainly due being dyslexic and that writing is my weakest form of expression… but I definitely could see the benefit of a blog. This gives me a chance to inject a more emotional and personable feel to my website instead of being so cut and dry.
The last worry that I had was about the power of words. I am by no means an adoption expert and really this blog is only my opinions. I say this to a lot of people I have met while doing talks, everyone is different and anything I say must be taken only as one person’s lived experience. I’ve been lucky enough to meet a lot of adoptees and families in my life and I can garentee that no one person will have exactly the same ideas about adoption.
Despit my worries about starting this blog, I’m actually very excited. I hope that I can put up photos and maybe even see if I can sort out a podcast/voice posts at some point. =)